Friday, June 08, 2007

A Tip from Keith Ferrazzi

I had to share this with you.

Many thanks to Keith for helping this recovering geek on the road to recovery and to Advantage Conferences for the ongoing mentoring to help me build the muscles necessary.

Eric Standlee
http://businessconferences.info

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Tip 78 - Meeting people you don't like
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Recently I was playing polo (my new favorite pastime), and a new person was introduced to our regular group. The first impression I got was that he was pretty inauthentic, even untruthful about a few things, and it was a definite put-off.
 
When you meet someone you don't like, you've got two choices. Become annoyed at having to deal with the new person. Or step back and realize that usually when people act like that, it's because of some insecurity and their defense mechanisms are kicking in to protect from being hurt.
 
Initially, I reacted the wrong way. I'm human. But luckily, when it was obvious I was pretty tweaked, a good friend who's also part of my accountability group called me on my behavior.
 
Then I remembered the advice a friend once gave me about how to handle these situations. Do the opposite of your initial reaction. So if I started to push back and be defensive and gruff myself, I actually should choose to be positive and very affirming to help create a comfortable, safe environment for the person I didn't like so much at first, to give them the best opportunity to demonstrate the good they probably really have inside. 
 
Even in these relatively brief relationship situations, it pays to focus on generosity and helping others. And in the end, that's the best way to help yourself, too.
 
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To your success,
Keith Ferrazzi

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